Bouncing Back from Setbacks: Becoming the Master of Your Destiny at All Costs
There is nothing worse than feeling like a failure. Some people simply cannot stomach the thought of being unable to live up to their own expectations or the expectations of others. One setback can sometimes send a sensitive person reeling for days, even years, and sink them into a deep depression.
However, there is nothing more defeating than allowing yourself to stay stuck in the mindset of believing that a plan didn’t work out because you or your planning process was inherently flawed. When we circle the blame onto ourselves again and again, it can take us years to recover from the abuse we are heaping onto our psyche.
You are not worthless because a plan you attempted to put into action hasn’t succeeded yet. You are courageous for putting in the effort at all.
Just because something didn’t work out taking one course of action, that doesn’t mean that you are doomed to fail eternally.
It simply means that it is time to regroup and fall back on plan B. Or C. Or D. You could go through as many variations of your plan as many times as you need to. The important thing is that you never give up. You could go through the entire alphabet again and again until you figure out what works to make your dream a reality. If it means enough to you, then don’t stop believing that success is possible.
This can be easier said than done. Bouncing back after a setback can seem impossible at first, but the first thing you need to do is to remember to breathe. If you panic, nothing good will come of it. Your best course of action is to approach the situation with a cool and level head, and although that may be hard to do at first, you are more than capable of it!
Next, give yourself a little bit of time to regroup and process what has happened. Why did your plan fail? What was it that got in the way? How could those issues have been avoided? What could you do better in the future when making a more foolproof plan B?
Finally, take some time to consider just what you have learned from the process of failing. Failure is not permanent. It is simply a stage that we go through during the evolution of a plan or an idea. Failure means that there are more complications than we anticipated, and we are learning more and more with every little mistake that we make.
By the time we succeed, we are so steeled against setbacks that the next goal we attempt to accomplish may seem to come much easier to us, because the setbacks are not so devastating.
We can turn our setbacks into gems of truth and a will of steel, or we can let it defeat us. But nobody has ever mastered their destiny by giving up. To become a great achiever, you keep going until you have achieved your goal at all costs!
Getting Organized: Your Guide to Planning the Perfect Work Week
There comes a point in our lives when we not only crave structure and organization, but we need it. Not only do we need it for our own peace of mind and to have security in our lives, but we need the time management skills that will provide us with the most productive work week possible so that we can make progress in our personal and professional lives.
A lot of people with an artistic vision may find themselves feeling confined or oppressed by the rigid structure of corporate office styles, but the truth is that a little bit of structure can go a long way in helping you to make your artistic visions into realities. Whether your goals are creativity based or not, organization is a key tool in providing yourself with the structure you need to thrive.
But how do we get ourselves organized when so much of our time is already spoken for and life can be a hectic and chaotic journey full of unpredictable events and setbacks? Why bother trying to carve out a routine for ourselves when it is unlikely that we will be able to stick with that routine? Isn’t that more of a waste of time than just trying to do our best moment from moment?
No. Organization is never a waste of time. When we sit down to mull over our work week, we are providing ourselves with the structure we need to get into the mindset to achieve our goals, whether they are personal or professional. The term “work week” in this sense is used loosely to refer to whatever it is that you find important to accomplish. The goals that you intend to work toward define the work week that you are planning.
Some people thrive from planning their lives hour by hour, day by day, while others work best with a general guideline to help them through the week. Whatever works best for you, do it. Start out by being as detailed as possible, but leave yourself a little bit of wiggle room. Sometimes things do just pop up that you weren’t counting on.
Rather than getting bent out of shape about it, make sure you have some time put aside to account for these moments in your schedule and make up for the time that you missed spending on that particular task.
Planning is meant to be a helpful, not a harmful tool. If you feel that you have a daily routine that is already working for you, then great! You can set your goals in a planner or calendar on a daily or weekly basis without having to work around your other obligations.
Shifting your work week to meet your goals can be fun if you let it. Think of it this way: you are putting in the time to write the blueprint you need in order to become the master of your destiny. What could be greater than that?
How Centered Equals Success
Meditation has been a hot topic for quite a while now, although many people still blow it off as something people should only do when they are extremely stressed out. What most of us don’t realize is that being centered isn’t something that needs to wait until we are uncentered. In fact, it is more beneficial than one might expect to use meditation as a way to maintain a centered state rather than to simply rediscover it.
When we are off balance, everything in our lives is affected by it. From our career to our relationships, whether personal or professional, an uncentered life can be extremely challenging. We may not realize that half of our problems are stemming from a lack of balance and stresses that are hard for us to process during the busy toils of daily living.
A lot of people make the mistake in thinking that mediation is simply a tool to reclaim a happy and balanced state of mind when all else fails. In fact, meditation actually serves a much greater purpose. When we meditate, we are not only helping our bodies to become more relaxed, but we are also improving our concentration, increasing our self-awareness, and allowing a chance for quiet contemplation of situations that might otherwise pass us by without the examination they deserve.
Life is hectic and rarely allows for enough quiet time to truly reflect on the experiences and emotions that we are going through. With meditation in our lives, we create a balanced state that provides our bodies and minds the optimal opportunities to grow and expand in knowledge. When we aren’t balanced, we find ourselves doing things out of integrity with ourselves and our personal goals, and those things can sometimes lead to disaster. In the worst-case scenarios, being off-center can even lead to failure.
Fortunately, it is easy for us to carve out just a few moments every day to focus on ourselves.
Meditation may seem like a new-aged trend, but it has been utilized for thousands of years as a way for humans to become more aligned with their own personal truths and follow a path that will lead to greater personal satisfaction.
Each of us define success differently, but by taking the time out of your day to meditate, you are giving your mind the chance it needs to become aligned with what is truly important to you. It will help you to accept the things that are happening in your life and give you an empowered perspective. When you are centered, not even the most terrifying and powerful storms can bring you down!
Taking the time to get centered and stay that way is essential in becoming successful. You are clearing the clutter of your busy life to focus on the things that matter the most to you, priming your mind to carve out the path of least resistance in achieving your goals. By centering yourself, you are putting yourself on the fast track to success and mastering your destiny!
How Understanding Your Creative Workflow Can Change Your Life
Have you ever read a book that just seemed to drone on and on? Or an article that may have made a lot of sense but didn’t really have that spark that you need to capture your interest? If so, then it is highly likely that these things were written out of the author’s integrity.
Maybe they were tired that day, or perhaps they simply didn’t care about the things they were writing about. In either case, the fact is that they were not in a creative zone that helped them to produce their best possible work, and it shows.
A lot of people believe that achieving their goals has to be strict and schedule-based, but sometimes putting rigid guidelines on creativity can actually stifle the creative process rather than help it. When we are trying to force ourselves to sit down and create on a schedule, then there are bound to be problems.
The Greeks used the idea of a “muse” existing because they believed that creativity was something that came from outside the self; that it visited us when it wanted to, not when we wanted it to.
Whether you believe in a muse or not, the fact of the matter is that sometimes, the inspiration to create simply isn’t there. That can be challenging for some, even discouraging. But once you stop putting pressure on the muse to show up, that is usually when the workflow becomes effortless.
You do not want to put yourself in a position where you are burning yourself out or creating out of integrity with your highest potential. That is why it is helpful to pay attention to when you create the most comfortably and under what conditions you are able to produce your best work. The key to creating meaningful things is not to force it.
When you find that you are inspired to create, make a quick mental or physical note about the time your inspiration struck, what may have inspired you, and what your physical state was like. Where were you? Did you just have a soothing cup of tea, or a filling meal? Did something specific provoke you to want to get back to your creative task?
Once you understand the most favorable conditions for your creative workflow, then it is only a matter of time before you will be able to enter that workflow on your own time. Knowing where you like to work and what you like to work with, along with your most favorable physical conditions can make all the difference in the world between an uninspired day and a day that is full of creative potential and accomplishments.
The muse can strike at any given moment, it’s true. But she is more likely to visit with somebody who will know exactly how to accommodate her. Understanding your creative workflow can help you to achieve things you might only have dreamt before. Mastering your destiny has never been easier!
Mastering Ourselves to Master Our Destiny
Have you ever been in the room with someone who doesn’t seem to realize that they are overstepping boundaries and generally just making other people around them feel uncomfortable? Have you ever wondered during such times whether or not you yourself might come across as one of these types of people?
The sad fact of the matter is that many of us are oblivious to our own faults and social faux pas, and because humans are social animals this can sometimes get seriously in the way of our success. Fortunately, learning how to communicate effectively in the ways that help others feel at ease around us is a skill that we can develop over time.
The first thing we need to do is to feel confident.
When we are not confident in ourselves and our opinions, it shows. Other people can tell when we are trying too hard, and that becomes unappealing and a little bit embarrassing to them. If you want to master your destiny and communicate in an authentic way, then you need to realize that you are a capable and competent person with your own plethora of strengths.
Here is a little secret: you don’t need to impress anybody. You are simply there to share ideas and try to have a good time doing it. Whether people agree with you or not isn’t the end of the world; opinions and ideas are just that. It is fact that is indisputable, and if you find yourself bickering about facts, as long as you are doing so in a respectful way, then chances are high that you are garnering respect while doing so.
The next thing you can do to communicate authentically is probably so simple that it might sound stupid. Think before you open your mouth. You have probably heard this all your life, but it couldn’t be more true than it is in the world of achieving goals and networking.
You do not want to go off half-cocked and make a fool of yourself in front of someone who may remember you as a hothead later on down the line when it could truly matter.
Instead of blurting out all of your thoughts and opinions, learn to listen and make mental notes to look into ideas that challenge your own. It is always good to be open-minded to new perspectives, so give it a shot!
Last but not least, learn how to concede. Many of us are insecure and will hold tightly to an idea or opinion even if we are proven wrong. Don’t let yourself be that guy.
Instead, learn how to listen to opposing perspectives and give everybody the impression that you are going to respect them no matter what they think or believe, even if that happens to differ from your own personal thoughts and opinions.
Once we have mastered ourselves in the art of communication, then all that is left from there is to go after what we truly want with no apologies! Only then can we be true masters of our destiny!
Mastering Your Destiny with Long-Term Planning
There are many people out there who look at the word “plan” with disgust or apprehension. Chances are that the more you detest words like “goal” or “plan,” the more disappointments you have experienced in life. Perhaps things did not go your way when it truly mattered to you, or you had believed that you had a fail-proof system in place to provide yourself with the structure required to succeed at a particular goal.
And yet, some unforeseeable event occurred and knocked you off-balance, only to make you shun the elaborate planning process that your failure seems to make a mockery of.
However, these types of setbacks happen to everybody. That is no excuse to stop trying. If one plan fails, then all you have to do is move on to a new plan that will take the new circumstances into consideration so that you are still moving toward your goal.
Long-term planning is something that anybody can do if they sit down and put their minds to it. All you need is a place to start. Pick a category of your life that you want to make a plan for. It is wise to make goals for all arenas that affect you.
Whether your plan is relating to your personal life or professional life, choose the specific category that you want to work with.
Next, visualize where you want to be in relation to that goal in the future. Make sure that you have a planner that you can use in order to go into as much detail as you possibly can when it comes to this arena of your life throughout the course of the year.
If your goal is, for example, to lose weight, you will need to determine a healthy and realistic end-goal. The master goal, so to speak. At the end of the year, how much weight, exactly, do you want to lose? Do you want to lose 50lbs by the end of the year? If so, then great. Put it down as your end goal and leave the end goal be where it is.
Next, you are going to want to begin breaking that big end goal down into smaller, more attainable goals that you can work on right away. For example, you can utilize planning to help you to plan meals every day that will help you to accomplish your goals, and to set up a weekly workout schedule that will provide you with the activities necessary in successful weight loss.
Speaking with a nutritionist or personal trainer about what is a healthy goal to expect at the end of the week will give you an idea of how much weight you should be losing that week and whether or not you are meeting your goals.
By breaking your bigger goals down into a plan that you can follow throughout the year, you will be more than capable of achieving anything that you set your mind to.
Mastering your destiny with long-term planning is a surefire recipe for success!
Mastering Your Morning: How to Start Your Day off Right to Usher in Success
Many successful people will tell you outright that the key to their success is in building a solid morning routine. With a good morning routine, anything is possible! We can all relate to those days where you wake up and everything just falls into place.
We have had enough sleep, we eat a good breakfast, and we get a nice dose of fresh air and enough exercise to really get our blood moving. Those types of mornings set us up to have successful, pleasant days, and if you want to be a successful person, then starting every day off with the right attitude can make all the difference in the world.
There is actually science behind the reason why a good morning routine can provide us with the keys we need to having a successful day and achieving our goals.
When we provide ourselves with structure at the beginning of our day, we are priming ourselves to have the discipline we need for the rest of the day and follow suit.
It takes our ego out of the day and allows us to focus on the things that truly matter to us without any emotional baggage weighing us down.
The best key to a good morning routine begins the night before. Make sure that you are going to bed at a reasonable hour and getting the sleep that you need so your body and mind can stay alert and focused the next day.
There is nothing better than waking up and feeling refreshed from a good night’s sleep. This may physiologically get more difficult as we age, but we can still do whatever we can to rest and nourish our bodies.
The next thing you can do is to make sure that you are eating well in the morning. All of us have a different biological makeup, so choose the meal that seems to work the best for you. Some people thrive on high-sugar meals while others prefer light breakfasts of fruit. Others still may prefer to have a protein-rich breakfast that will prime them for the rest of the day. Do whatever feels right to you.
We are all different. Make sure that you have at least one full glass of water upon waking, as sleeping can leave us dehydrated. When we aren’t well-hydrated, our focus and concentration suffer tremendously.
Once you are nourished, set aside some time for light stretching or exercise. This can often be the best time to work in this type of activity, as the day can easily become very active.
Exercise is another practical way to help your mind stay on track, as it allows the blood to move through the body and to the brain, improving concentration and encouraging creativity.
Some of the most successful people in the world swear by their morning rituals. You, too, can enjoy a positive mental outlook throughout the day and the focus you need to achieve your dreams. The first step you need to take to mastering your destiny is simply waking up!
The Link Between Wisdom and Success
A great philosopher once said, “To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.” But is what does wisdom have to do with mastering your destiny?
The fact is that every day, we are faced with hundreds of decisions to make. These decisions can sometimes alter the course of our lives and relationships forever, even if they seem like they are inconsequential at the time.
So how can we guarantee that our decisions are going to be made wisely?
The answer is introspection.
If we are not fully confident in ourselves and our ideals, then the choices we make are a gamble. We may like the outcome, or we may live to regret it. There is no way of knowing for sure unless we understand ourselves and our own motivation inside and out. If we don’t, then it will make it harder for us to follow our gut impulses, because our gut doesn’t know which way is up!
Intuition may seem mystical and mysterious, but at its core, it is a culmination of experiences that our unconscious mind has formed into a sense impression. If we don’t experience the world with conviction, then our mind doesn’t know what to make of the sensory input that it receives.
That is why it is so important to make sure that you know exactly who you are and what you want out of life. The best way to do that is to sit down and truly think about what it is that you want to accomplish in life and what it is that you believe in. When we don’t know those things, we lack the resources needed to make wise choices and snap decisions that will ultimately contribute to our success.
Fortunately, there is a way that we can ensure our success by garnering wisdom in our lives, and that is by getting to know ourselves intimately enough that our intuition works in our favor rather than against it. In today’s day and age, it may seem important to always try to keep up with everyone around us, but when we aren’t making time for ourselves, then we are the only ones who start to suffer.
Rather than being at the beck and call of your peers, take some much needed down time to reflect on your life and goals and where you want to see yourself in the future. These types of visualization exercises can help us to prime our intuition and trust ourselves with important and life-altering choices. We will know that we are living with integrity, and that every cell in our bodies are aligned toward our higher purpose.
Don’t wait for other people to tell you that you are on the right track. Get yourself there on your own by learning to master your own mind and taking the steps that are necessary in achieving your goals. Most people think that wisdom is something we are either born with or we aren’t, but the truth is that it is a skill. Mastering that skill is the key to mastering your destiny!
Turning Your Weakness into Strength
We all have weaknesses, whether we like to admit having them or not, and sometimes these weaknesses can translate into failure. When we aren’t paying attention to our weaknesses, letting them go and pretending that they aren’t there, this is when they become the most lethal. They can sneak into our lives and wreak havoc in ways that we are blind to, thoroughly sabotaging any chance we might have at being a success.
While it may be difficult to accept the areas in which we need to improve, a healthy amount of self-awareness may be the only way to provide you with the tools that you need in order to achieve your goals. When you know yourself inside and out, then there will be no surprises to sneak up on you on the way toward making your dreams into a reality.
Once you have been able to identify your weaknesses, this does not make you a weaker person.
Actually, the opposite is true. Knowing the ways that you are lacking gives you the foundation to become more successful. Consider each weakness as an opportunity to grow and learn rather than as being something to be ashamed of and to try to hide from. These things that you struggle with are not faults, they are living potential!
Following through on that potential is the fastest way to grow.
If you do this, you are well on your way to becoming the strongest version of yourself that you can possibly be.
Becoming self-aware can take some time, but there are some simple ways that you can begin to gauge your potential. First, do your best to become aware of the way that you impact others. Are your words or actions creating your desired affect? Ask people and find out. Let them know your intentions, and see if they find that you are following through with your desired affect!
Next, apply this line of thinking to your actions in private. Are you doing things that help you to grow and be a better version of yourself, or are you making excuses? Are you being honest with yourself about where you are at in the process of achieving your goals, or are you flaking out on yourself? If you find that you are, don’t sit around and feel sorry for yourself or ashamed about it.
Instead, use it as a chance to make a plan of action!
Consider the ways that you are lacking and actively seek out the resources that you need to turn those areas for potential growth into actual growth! Most of us feel we have many divets and holes within us, the ways we are not good enough.
But when we take the time and effort to address those areas, what we find is that they are not so scary after all. In fact, giving them the time and attention they deserve not only makes you feel more confident, but they provide you with the key to mastering your destiny!
What it Means to be the Best Version of Yourself and Mastering Your Destiny
The problem with the world today is that so often, it encourages conformity. We measure ourselves by rigid standards that are set by other people and ultimately decide whether we are worthy based on the opinions of someone who has no idea what it may be like to walk through life in our shoes.
The opinions of people who don’t understand us often shape our own image of who we are, and tarnish all that we might accomplish based on biases that make achieving our dreams more difficult.
It isn’t right to believe that we are less than we are because somebody else told us so. Only we can choose our destiny. When we give other people the power to judge us and allow their opinions to shape our opinions of ourselves, then nothing good will come of it.
We can become so depressed and unmotivated when we are living outside of our own integrity. Allowing others to shape our destinies is something that can destroy our happiness for the rest of our lives.
There isn’t a secret potion that we can drink one day and suddenly turn into the person that we want to be. Becoming the best version of yourself takes time and dedication; practice and determination. We have to be comfortable with the process; with looking inward and learning how to take baby steps so that we don’t fall right back down again.
One of the worst things that you can do is to try to rush the process by biting off more than you can chew. Instead, take things slow and give yourself the time that you need to really get reacquainted with your goals and reality.
Once you have done this, then you can start to pick up the pace a little bit. Take the time out of your day to make sure that you are meeting your own needs and working toward accomplishing realistic and bite-sized personal goals.
Give yourself some credit and a pat on the back simply for choosing to show up for yourself instead of staying stuck in the rat race one moment longer. Nobody else will ever shape your destiny again; it is now in your hands and that was a huge step to take. Congratulate yourself for it! Some people never get to this point.
From here, it is all about being the best you that you can be. Allow yourself to feel pride for all of your victories. Success breeds success, and setting small, reasonable goals and celebrating their success will help you to move on to the next goal in line, until you have easily knocked a huge goal out of the park and achieved something major!
Being the best version of yourself may take time and effort, but it is well within your grasp. All you have to do is stop subscribing to other people’s version of who you should be and choose who you want to be instead. There is no faster way to master your destiny!
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